21 posts categorized "Lifestyle"

February 14, 2012

Need I Say More?

I am different. You are different. This started differently and progressed without intention. Long evenings without harmless untruths. It was quixotic and confidential.  Trials were made and times got hard.  Everything always got better, but time ways always too short.  

We're silly and horrible people, but you are awesome and  I am awesome. We're not alone but certainly in our own world. We don't always agree, but we can compromise and most importantly you put up with my quirks

Thank you for being different.  Need I say more?

 

February 07, 2012

Appeals Court Strikes Down Prop. 8

May 20, 2011

The woes of cabbing in SF

Cabbing in San Francisco, sucks. I don't think I could emphasize this anymore.  Of course, if you're from SF and reading this you're probably thinking, "You're singing to the choir," and it's true.  You won't find many people in SF who will sing praises of San Francisco Cabs.  

I cab frequently,  mostly because I'm super anal retentive about being on time to anything I've scheduled myself to go to and everyone knows how reliable Muni is. There are places in SF where it's not that hard to hail a cab from the street (at least in my experience), but my office is no where near the SF cab trail.  This leaves me with the only option of attempting to use some service to order a cab or calling the companies directly.  I've tried: Cabulous, Taxi Magic and Uber, with Uber being my most recent test of transportation.

I liked the UI and spirit of Cabulous, but in reality there were so few cabs that were using it (when I was testing it out) and most of the time I'd hail a cab and they'd drop me and I'd have to try again.  I loved Taxi Magic when it worked, except Luxor completely ruined Taxi Magic for me. I had many good experiences with Luxor, but the bad experiences were overwhelmingly bad.  I've been stranded at 3am alone waiting for a cab that promised to be there but never showed up only to call the cab company and get treated like an idiot, on many occasions I've gotten cab drivers who didn't know their way around and asked me for directions (despite having a GPS mounted to their dash), I've been assigned a cab and waited for 40+ minutes for it and I've had Luxor assign me cabs only to reassign a cab and eventually cancel my order underneath me after waiting for almost an hour.  Many times, I would order cabs from multiple services as a safety net and just take the one that showed up first.

As I said, I loved Taxi Magic, but Luxor treats their customers horribly and they are the only cab service that Taxi Magic offers in app orders.  Then I finally broke down and tried uber, those are for the cars aren't cabs but more of private drivers. The few times I've used them, the price was about $6 - $7 more expensive than a cab (including generous tip).  I will say, that despite the cost I feel respected as a customer by the private drivers. Thus far I haven't been stranded or left to wait forever.  

With the horrible mess that San Francisco Cabs are, they are planning on raising cab fares in SF. While I understand that the actual cabbies probably aren't making much money after their companies take their cut, I'm pretty offended as a customer that extremely subpar service will cost even more money. Below is an article from The Bay Citizen that talks a bit more about the cab fare rise and has links to back stories involving it.  

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May 18, 2011

Drastically Derailed

I'm very easy to distract and I don't even realize it when I am, then all of a sudden I don't remember what it is I was originally doing before I went down the rabbit hole. Here's an actual chain of events (and I'm thankful I've remembered them) they aren't necessarily a complete listing, I know that I did some work in the middle of all of them in various places. I multitask like a fiend and keep two browsers open with multiple tabs and windows for various work and non work stuff. The big monitor right in front of my face gets all the worky stuff, the laptop monitor way off to my side out of my direct view (usually) gets the non-worky stuff.

  1. See self in mirror, realize new hair stuff makes hair keep shape.
  2. "Crunched" up my hair and put on a tophat, creating a crazy bedhead and tophat look
  3. Decided to immortalize silly hat/hair look on Dailybooth
  4. Tweeted the picture
  5. Working on large tedious project (referred to as LTP below) that is taking all day.
  6. The @replies made me think of my hair colour
  7. Perused old Dailybooth photos looking at dye jobs
  8. Came up with idea to crowd source hair colour
  9. More LTP
  10. Perused punk hair dye sites to get colour listing
  11. Made google form/poll and got embed code
  12. Even more LTP
  13. Went to my tia-marie.com with the intention of just making a post to add the embed code to the post and ended up at Nerdsinbabeland.com (It just popped into my head, don't ask)
  14. Noticed that she linked to my blog, decided to go to template to make a blogroll section and reciprocate
  15. You guessed it, more LTP
  16. Changed tagline on blog instead and tweaked some other minor aesthetics
  17. TypePad code snippet for beta comment system, broke blog trying to put it in.
  18. Learned lesson hard way (for the millionth time) to never make changes to a live site without a backup and switched between the LTP and fixing my giant mistake.
  19. Started looking for graphical inspiration for better background.
  20. Closed all chrome windows by accident, continued on LTP and dropped everything else (because I forgot)
  21. Boss asked question about work, tech issue. Went to investigate
  22. OMGWTFBBQ, one of our sites is broken with an SSL error. FIX IT FIX IT FIX IT FIX IT FIX IT.
  23. Consult programmer friend before making stupid bug report to coworker programmer.
  24. Troubleshoot problem to an old entry in /etc/hosts, crisis averted I'm just stupid and forgetful.
  25. Stared at bosses twitter page trying to remember what it was I was doing and continued to work on the large tedious project I'd been working on all day.
  26. Noticed form edit page on laptop monitor and remembered originally what I was doing.
  27. IM comment from programmer friend made me look at programs on mac app store.
  28. During my amusement and bewilderment of how far off I'd derailed myself, decided to create this list.

There you have it. As I said, there are lots of other bits in there. Do you ever get this wildly derailed?

January 27, 2011

Help me rescue @JapanaRadio & @WNOHGB!

A dear friend of mine has a project dear to him that is in risk of going under. If any of you are Anime or Jpop music fans, I'd love for you to take a listen to Japan-a-Radio. It is an online radio station for Jpop and Anime music. Right now, Japan-a-Radio runs out of my friend's house on a T1 connection that he pays for himself with the assistance of donations and paid subscriptions to Japan-a-Radio (you can still listen to Japan-a-Radio for free still, it just has some adverts in it).

Not only am I good friends with the person who runs Japan-a-Radio but I also am a heavy user of another project of his that is run off of the same T1 line (that is also in risk). It's a Star Trek themed MOO that I've been playing for about two years now, I wrote about it here to get more players in the game.

Anyhow, this T1 line needs help and not only is it's livelihood important to my friend but it is important to me as well. If there is anything you guys can do to help out, that would be awesome. I've donated myself, but I can't give much more than I already have. However, as proof that I have put my own money up on this project I have a picture of the receipt for my donation.

How can you help? Obviously the most awesome way is by directly donating or buying a subscription to Japan-a-Radio here is the Donation page. I personally don't like asking strangers for money, so I would be just as thrilled if you could just go listen to Japan-a-Radio and spread the word. With luck, some one will appreciate the station and buy a subscription or drop a tip to Japan-a-Radio.

Please don't hesitate to contact me for any questions or you can reach out to my friend @Otaking on twitter if you have any questions about this :)

 

October 09, 2010

The Social Commentary behind Die Antwoord's "Evil Boy"

It's no secret that I'm particular fond of foreign music. I find myself drawn to genres of music in other regions of the world that I would not enjoy produced in the states.

One song in particular that drew my attention is the song "Evil Boy" by the South African Zef group Die Antwoord (Afrikaans: "The Answer"). The song is written in English, Afrikaans and Xhosa and has a sound similar to American hip hop.

Admittedly, what drew me to the song originally was the total WTF/NSFW nature of the video associated with the song. Dark, grungy and incredibly phallic symbolism is used throughout the entire video. Watching the video for the first time, with no lyrics or context is very confusing. Which is what led me to dig around deeper.

The lyrics have pieces of social commentary about adolescent circumcision within Xhosa tribes as well as a shout out to AIDS awareness campaign from 2002, to encourage condom use across Africa and even a word play joke on the armed wing of the African National Congress.

Before saying much more, I'll let you watch the video for yourself, pay special attention to the period of 1m24s to 2m10s. This section is sung in Xhosa by Wanga:

 

On first pass, you're probably very confused and upset that I didn't mention NSFW about a dozen times. If you read the english lyrics in the section of the video I mentioned, it may on first glance sound as anti-homosexual commentary. However, as the band has explained, these lyrics are in regards to Wanga's personal experience with his tribe's ritual circumcision:

So, the story behind this video and song (or part of the story -- there's so much going on!) is that Wanga felt that he was being coerced into a form of ritual circumcision by his community. It's sort of taken for granted within his ethnic group that you must do this, so much so that if you are a young man and you do not participate, you are ostracized, as the band explained to me.

The thinking, and this is communicated very directly to the young men, is that if you don't participate, you're gay. You're effeminate. You're not a real man. You never mature from being a boy to being a man.

He struggled with all of this in real life: with what it meant for his personal and cultural identity. And he came to a point where he was like, you know what? Fuck you all. The fact that I won't consent to having my penis sliced with an unsterilized knife, out in the bush, and risk infection or worse-- that doesn't mean "I'm gay," as you say. I reject this tradition. If that's what being a man is, fuck it, I don't want to be a man. I'll be an "evil boy for life," even if it means I am ostracized from my community.

You might have chosen different lyrics, but dude, it's not our story or our culture or our world experience at all.

It's his.

It's gone into more explanation about the environment of ritual circumcision:

We're not talking about the same thing as what happens in Western countries, with babies in a sterile hospital environment... we're talking about boys in their late teens going off into the bush with an unsterilized knife and a blanket, no anesthesia, etc. The ritual apparently results in some number of casualties, infections, and permanent (unintended) injury to the teen males who go through the tradition, and some of the kids who are now more urbanized, with access to other ways of thinking, want to opt out. That's what Wanga's lyrics are about.

This ritual circumcision is performed in unsanitary conditions, often with the same knives that has caused the spread of STDs and HIV.  Post initiative deaths are extremely high and there is great social stigma associated with the ritual.  There is much attention (but still not enough) towards the practice of female genital mutilation, yet very little attention has been turned to the practice of adolescent ritual circumcision.   

October 04, 2010

Loving your geeky beau

I asked earlier today on Twitter, "You've got a geeky male love interest, how would you sweeten his day?" I was surprised by the responses, not the suggestions but more of the people who reached out to me privately saying, "Let me know what people say, I'm curious!" With stories of their geeky beau they want to make happy.


Without getting into the multitudes of types of geeky men, I can break this down in one answer: Show interest and curiosity in what he does. 


If you're beau is a programmer, you don't need to know how cache invalidation works, Big O notation or the finer points of functional programming, you just need to listen.  You're not going to understand everything, but I promise if you take a moment to ask him about his work he'll tell you.  If you have a programmer love interest, try asking them if they've "solved any cool problems this week," in regards to their job.  Chances are, you'll have them asking you if you seriously care (and do show interest) and then going on to tell you what they did. Perhaps they work at a webby startup and has been fighting some bug all week and after finally vanquishing it, discovered that they were able to speed up request times on the site they work for by a couple of milliseconds.  


It's not hard to talk to a programmer, even if you don't think you're not smart enough to hold a conversation with them.  I've only had good experiences talking with programmers, most of the ones I know are very opinionated and passionate about their specialties. Communication isn't a one way thing.  
I've known many a geeky male to be more than happy to sit back and let me talk about myself, my interests and my work.  That's not a conversation though, don't let them get away with being listeners.  You also don't have to pretend to understand what they are talking about to get them to converse and potentially respect you.  


Which brings me to my next point, there is no shame in telling some one "I don't know." Repeat that phrase, learn it and embrace it.  You'll gain far more appreciation and respect if you own up to things you don't know and seem willing to learn.  Learning doesn't mean being a master of something, it just means knowing more about a subject than you knew five minutes prior.


The above suggestions can go for whatever genre of geekery your interest is into, be it video games, physics, medicine, programming or math (and all the other genres of geekery).  It really doesn't matter, just show interest.  Nine times out of ten, you'll not only get an explanation of what your interest did at work, but they will also try their best to explain what it means to you in laymen terms so that you can better follow the conversation.


I'm sure you probably were thinking I'd have a list of things you could buy your geek instead of something as simple as "listen." So, I've put together a list of nice things that I know some geeks appreciate:

  • Composition Book - This is half line paper and half graph paper, if you have yourself a programmer or an electronics aficionado this composition book is great for mathematical proofs and circuit diagrams with notation.
  • World War Z: An Oral History of the Zombie War -  Check to see if they don't own this already!  Not only is this book a great read, it's about zombies too!
  • IM Me Device - If it's a hardware hacker you've got on your hands, this little device is a really great way to have a hackable radio on the cheap. 
  • Cling-on whiteboard sheets - Whiteboards are the vitae of many a geek's life.  These are static cling on whiteboard sheets that one can plop up on their wall for some giant sized whiteboard awesomeness.
  • Dr. Who USB Hub - There is never enough USB ports for all of your devices, why not let him celebrate it with geekery.
  • Battlestar Galactica, the boardgame - YES It exists, surprise your geek with it and enjoy this "semi-cooperative" game with them.
  • Carcassonne: Hunters and Gatherers - Chances are, if they are a boardgame geek they already have the original Carcassonne.  Do they have this version yet?  Also, why aren't you playing Carcassonne with your boardgame geek yet?
  • Cowboy Bebop CD Box Set - I've yet to meet an anime geek who didn't absolutely love the Cowboy Bebop soundtrack and cheaper than the entire DVD set.
  • The Black Mages: Final Fantasy - If you have a gamer geek on your hands, they might appreciate this collection of final fantasy music. 

If you have any suggestions or additions leave me a comment or tweet me to: @tia_marie

August 30, 2010

The Birth of a Gamer

 

I wish to share a very personal story with all of you.  This is the story of how I became a gamer and I write it because I want you my friends to know how gaming came to be with me.

The year was 1987, I was a young child of five and we didn't have a great deal of money.  I don't know how my mother convinced my father to buy a Nintendo in the first place, but she did.

Her favourite game was "The Legend of Zelda." The first installment in Miyamoto's dynasty of the Zelda universe.  My mother was in love with the game.  Despite being so young, I can clearly recall the time my mom spent at the NES.  She had her pencil and graph paper out, carefully marking every hidden item in the game.  Each and every bush, rock, wall or secret place in the game that you could burn, bomb, push or play a recorder at, that woman had it marked (on the 1st and 2nd quest). Then she helped me through it. It was another one of our reading bonding exercises.  She'd help me read the clues and the speech boxes and give me gentle nudges in the directions of the clues. I fell in love with gaming.  It was even better since my mother had such a direct impact in my life as a gamer.

 

My last memory of my mother was the night before she died. I was sixteen years old, it was a Sunday night over the summer.  We were playing the original Diablo over battlenet.  I had introduced her to "hacked" characters and showing her that you could PlayerKill with these. She was laughing herself in tears telling me how horrible I was as she controlled the mouse to kill unsuspecting players as I trolled them over chat.  I'd never seen my mother laugh so hard. Nor had I remembered having so much fun playing a video game before in my life.

 

I'm all grown up now and I'll never forget where I got my start as a gamer.  My mother's influence in my gaming origins will never be forgotten.  Legend of Zelda had such an impact on my life and my memories of my mother that I had forever etched the tribute of the game that first tied me to gaming on my right forearm.

In closing, I had the most awesome mom ever. <3

June 24, 2010

My friend will be Climbing Mt. Kilimanjaro for Charity

Clipped from: itstheclimb.co.uk by clp.ly

My friend Mitu and her sister, have started a charitable organization they call Arohon. They hope to raise £5000 in sponsorship for their Mt. Kilimanjaro climb to improve the resources of Nikrail Gonokendra Pathagar in Bangladesh.  

I've been friends with Mitu for well over a year now and she has never ceased to amaze me.  She's an incredibly kind, caring and strong woman who always goes through with what she puts her mind to.  

That's why I'm asking you to consider giving them some of your support in the form of a donation for their climb. If you can't support financially then please tell your friends, share this clip (http://clp.ly/ATo_+) through your blog, email, facebook, twitter or posterous account to help spread the word about Mitu's cause!  If my words are convincing enough, then perhaps it might be more enticing to know Mitu is a PhD candidate for video game research (how cool is that?)

Check out their mission below, they speak better than I about their goals and what they are doing!

Our aim is to empower poor people by providing them with the basic resources needed to climb out of poverty. We believe that by implementing improved sanitation, housing, healthcare and education, the world’s most vulnerable people can finally lift themselves out of poverty. Indeed, our name, ‘Arohon’, is the Bengali word for ‘climb’.

Primarily we shall be working to combat poverty in Bangladesh, where, after visiting the area where our dad grew up, we found many people struggling to access basic necessities, including safe drinking water. Bangladesh is fighting to become a middle income country, but with such a fast growing population and limited resources, millions of Bangladeshis remain trapped in poverty. With the help of Arohon, we want to open up opportunities for these people to build better lives for themselves.

Of course, as a new charitable organisation, we aim to tackle these issues one step at a time, with our first target areas being education and women’s empowerment.  Though Bangladesh has achieved gender parity in primary school enrolment, far fewer girls complete their education in comparison to their male counterparts. Of the 67 million adults that are illiterate in Bangladesh, 42 million are women (Source: DFID) – our aim is to break down the barriers to girls’ education. Our vision is to shift gender perceptions in Bangladesh so women are openly offered the same education and career opportunities as men. Arohon will be opening a women’s education centre teaching basic numeracy and literacy skills; we believe this is one of the first steps to help local women realise their full potential.

As a result of poverty around three million children (half of which are girls), miss out on state primary education (Source: UNGEI).  Arohon will also be supporting the extension of a currently struggling public library, so that local citizens have free educational resources available to them.

From itstheclimb.co.uk via clp.ly

 

June 22, 2010

Gaming for Charity take two!

  It's very early to announce this, but I wanted to get this up.  As you remember from last year, I participated in Sarcastic Gamer's Extra Life charity. It's a 24 hour gaming marathon to raise money for children's cancer research.  I want to thank last year's sponsors heavily and everyone who supported me last year during the 24-hour run through!

 I had an absolute blast last year and while I was working at Justin.tv I helped promote the gamers who took part in the charity marathon and participated with them.  Together we raised nearly $20,000 for Extra Life.

I wanted to take a moment to highlight two of my favourite moments from last year.  I broadcasted the entire event and these two video clips come from hour 23, when I was totally starting to lose steam and getting very sleepy and everything devolved into "That's what she said" jokes and sex humour.

This year I'll be doing it again and you can help me!  I'll be joining up with team WNOHGB with my good friend @otaking to try to raise money for the Children's Hospital & Research Center of Oakland, CA.  I have a personal goal of $1,000 this year, but I know that with your help, we can do this together!  I'm also dedicating my participation in this year's event to my friend Drew Olanoff who has been kicking Cancer's Ass and has gotten thousands to #blamecancer in the hopes to raise awareness and funding to cancer research. I've always adored Drew and he's been an inspiration to me both as a Community Manager and a person. 

Now, the question remains. How can you help? Below is a clip of my donation page, you can choose to sponsor me as I play for 24 hours straight on October 16th 2010, spread the word to your friends or sign up with me!  Join me and team WNOHGB and help raise money for cancer research!  Together we can help kick cancer's ass! If you have any questions don't hesitate to shoot me an email or contact me on twitter: @tia_marie, I'll be happy to answer your questions!

Clipped from: https://www.hospitalshelpingkids.org/ExtraLife/m.aspxi176117A819CE77DDA by clp.ly

 

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